4 Best ways to raise your children in a positive environment
Becoming a parent is the happiest experience in the world, as well as a great responsibility to give good parenting. Honestly, saying Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world. We worried about how good parenting can be given to the children. What things are good for children? What type of dress is good for them? How to give a good environment to them? This type of questions arises not only in our minds, but our parents also might have been tense likewise for us when we were young. Definitely, every parent wants their children to become good people. Every activity matters a lot to the children, because what they see, they imitate. What they hear, they speak as it is. Children are like clay, and parents are like a potter. Children shape themselves in a way that they get from their environment. So primarily, it is vital to give a good and positive environment.
Good and Positive Environment
Well, you might be thinking, how can I give a good and positive environment to my children? Often or sometimes we use words like No, Never, Don’t, to refuse or to keep away from things. We feel it is all right, I am disciplining my children, but these words are affecting our children’s minds, and they start to think that my parents are restricting me from doing what I like. They are compelling, forcing and imposing their feelings and thoughts on me. It is better to make sure the children understand why all those things are not good for them. As parents, once we do this part effectively with our children. There will be no need to say those negative words again.
Be attentive towards children
We are all work-oriented, and as the day starts, we try to finish work. We keep ourselves busy till the day ends. We hurry to send children to school, rush to the office, then come home and indulge in doing some other work. Sometimes we don’t even notice what our children said while they were setting out for school. Then sometimes we dive so deeply into the digital world of our mobile that we just pour out our ideas and thoughts to our children, and we won’t even listen to what they have to say. We completely ignore their thoughts and valuable ideas. In this way, bonding between parents and children decreases. At times, our children are far away from our reach and control. They want to talk to their parents and share their ideas. As parents, let us sit together with children, hear them patiently, welcome and accept their constructive ideas, praise them for their good work and make them understand their wrongdoings. Even I would say that we should let our ears be attentive to their every single word. All these things help to maintain strong bonding between parents and children and help children to grow emotionally, intellectually, and morally. It gives an environment of peace, acceptance, frankness, honesty, etc., to the children.
Be a role model
You believe it or not, every child feels proud of his /her parents. In school, in college, in work place child shares parents' work, love, emotions towards building of his/her life. Every child wants to imitate their parents. As we treat others, our children also treat others the same way. Children observe their parents’ deeds, behaviour, talks, eating, drinking, etc. As parents, everything we do is watched by our children, which impacts them. So let us be sensitive when doing things in front of our children and be a role model for them. Home is the first learning place for a child, and parents are the first teachers. Likewise, the first friends of a child are their parents. During the early stages of life, a child knows nobody. Parents are the people whom they know, trust, share emotions with, and play with. When a child grows older and older, the intimate friendship between the child and parents decreases, and a gap starts to appear. Sometimes the gap becomes very big. It is true that as children grow, they go through different surroundings and naturally gap occurs. As parents, our friendship with our child should go to the next level, which is called ‘best friends’. In this way, we can maintain the intimacy of our relationship with our child, not just as father and mother but as the most trusted friend, especially in teen age.
Be a mentor
Parents are the best mentors for their child because they are with the child more than anyone. They are well known for their child. His/her likes, dislikes, emotions, behaviour, etc. It is easy to mentor someone whom we know well. Parents teach children about educational values, spiritual values, moral values, character building, body growth, etc. Sometimes we do neglect to do so, thinking that it is too early to teach, but we need to teach them early. Children grasp things very quickly. If we place these values in them from an early as they grow, they grow with these. So let us be a mentor to our child.
Conclusion
Parenting is not a duty, but it is an equal responsibility of both father and mother. Bringing up children with good moral values is a great work finished by parents. It is written that whatever the child learns in childhood, the child never forgets, even in old age. Nurturing a good human being is a result of good parenting and is a great contribution to family, society, country and world.
